Many pet owners feel a disconnect: you feed them, play with them occasionally, and keep them safe—but the emotional spark just isn’t there. You might wonder, What’s wrong with me? Am I a bad owner? The truth is, bonding with a pet is a dynamic process shaped by countless factors: timing, psychology, biology, life changes, upbringing, and more. In this article, we’ll explore: What “bonding” actually means. Common reasons it hasn't happened yet. What these reasons reveal about you. Actionable steps to grow your connection. When it might be time to reassess. 1. What Bonding Really Means Bonding is not magical chemistry. It’s a mutual attachment built over time. Pets form attachments through: Trust — they feel safe. Dependence — you meet their needs. Emotional resonance — you respond to each other’s emotions. Reciprocal signals — comfort, play, eye contact, proximity. Dogs, like babies, bond through trust, predictability, and attention. Cats and dogs show attachment comparable to pare...